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Want to be more #assertive at work? 💪 What holds most of us back is #selfdoubt - it's time to move forward, and leave self doubt behind. 💪 In today's #nudenotes I am sharing my notes on 'The Secret to Being Assertive at Work' an #infographic created by think-confidence.com. 💪 There are 3 super simple and actionable steps you can take to being more assertive: 💪 1 - Know how you naturally come across to your peers. 2 - Adapt your communication style to suit others. 3 - Use your body language to reinforce your message. 💪 For more details on these steps check out my nudenotes. 💪 Remember... Don't over analyse, learn from your mistakes and stay positive. Actually that's just good life advice. haha. 💪 Let me know your tips and tricks for being assertive in the comment. 💪 💪 💪 #assertivenesscoach #assertiveness #assertivecommunication #assertivenesstraining #instagramforbusiness #successtips #businessquotes #mentorship #businesspassion #businesscoaching #businessonline #worklife #careergoals #careerdevelopment #selfimprovement #bujo #handlettered #scribblesthatmatter #handdrawntype #handwritting #handdrawn #sketchnotes #sketchnotes #sketchnoter #visualthinking #visualthinker
Kids are never too young to learn to speak up for themselves.
When it comes to communication the issue is not that you don't speak up, or have a voice, but that you are too aggressive in your speech and tone. Your message is harsh and you lose your audience. The High Expressive Person, can hardly wait to share your thought and feelings. You don't go to bed angry, you keep your partner up all night discussing things 😵 I'm not here to say this is good or bad but a ⚠️ to think carefully about how your message is landing. Have you observed how your partner receives your messages? When someone hurts or disappoints you do you speak up immediately without thinking or filtering? Do you flood people with your intensity? Does your partner shut down and agree with you but then they harbor resentment because they are secretly scared of you? Are you simply complaining or repeating the same hurts again and again? Be honest with yourself 🙋🏼♀️You might think you are an excellent communicator but sometimes too much of anything is extreme. The best communicators know how to read the room, and read their partner. There is a nice mix of softness and safety along with sharing of feelings and vulnerabilities. Instead of using a bullhorn make sure you are using your inside voice. Give me a 📣 if you endorse this message. . . . . #communication #personalgrowth #listening #personaldevelopment #youareenough #speechanddrama #vocabulary #inspiration #love #couple #couplegoals #couples #relationshipgoals #lovestory #inlove #relationshipadvice #relationshipproblems #backtolovedoc #assertiveness #assertivecommunication #aggressive #assertivenesstraining #assertivevsaggressive #assertivevoice #listening
Assertive, authoritative or parenting with love and logic is all the SAME...because you are parenting with your heart and your logical mind. ❤️🧠 You are parenting your child with love and doing your best to access logical thoughts that promote supportive communication not unsupportive communication. ➡️Staying motivated ➡️Staying positive ➡️Allowing your child to make mistakes without shame or embarrassment ➡️Being available ➡️Trusting your child(ren ) ➡️Empowering them to try new things ➡️Remaining calm inside your body and outside too ➡️Doing your best ➡️Trying new words like these to communicate with your child(ren ). #communication #communicationskills #communicationinparenting #parentingskills #parentingtips #parenting #parents #parenthood #assertive #assertiveness #assertivecommunication #assertivenesstraining #assertiveparenting #children #childdevelopment #parentchild #parentchildrelationship #mentalhealth #behavioralhealth #parentinglife #strongparents #thestrongparent #authoritativeparenting #loveandlogic #loveandlogicparenting #parentingwithloveandlogic #parentingwithlove #parentingwithlogic #mindfulparenting #mindfulparents
Tying in assertiveness training with authoritative parenting style: these two go hand in hand. ➡️Do you think you are an assertive or authoritative parent? ❤️4 communication styles: (Assertive, passive, aggressive & passive-aggressive ). ❤️4 parenting styles: authoritative, authoritarian, permissive & uninvolved. ➡️The best combo to use in my professional opinion and based on research studies, would be an authoritative parenting style and using assertive communication! ❤️More to come on this: this week!➡️I will keep providing more specific examples for you. Feel free to comment below with your child’s age and specific challenges you are facing with your child or children. ☺️Thanks for being here! Rachel Nguyen, MS, MA, LMHC #communication #communicationskills #communicationinparenting #parentingskills #parentingtips #parenting #parents #parenthood #assertive #assertiveness #assertivecommunication #assertivenesstraining #assertiveparenting #children #childdevelopment #parentchild #parentchildrelationship #mentalhealth #behavioralhealth #parentinglife #strongparents #thestrongparent #authoritativeparenting
This will look different for every child since every child is different. Some kids like more attention than others and that’s okay! You know your child best. Follow their lead and stick to your limits! ❤️ You can do this! And if you need some help along your way➡️ sign up for my courses or schedule coaching with me! ➡️More on assertive communication to come! #communication #communicationskills #communicationinparenting #parentingskills #parentingtips #parenting #parents #parenthood #assertive #assertiveness #assertivecommunication #assertivenesstraining #assertiveparenting #children #childdevelopment #parentchild #parentchildrelationship #mentalhealth #behavioralhealth #parentinglife #strongparents #thestrongparent
Communication is the key component of any interaction. We have been slaves to different forms of communication for thousands of years, yet expression of abstract thoughts into appropriate overt actions seems to become complex with each step of intellectual evolution. Bundles of information and overwhelming opinions bind us to certain social constructs, stripping us of the freedom we seek to express. That’s where ‘effective communication’ enters with its main ingredient - Assertiveness. . . . #paychotherapy #psychotherapist #mentalhealth #mentalhealthmatters #mentalhealthawareness #assertiveness #assertivecommunication # #assertivenesstraining #communication #communicationskillstraining #communicationiskey #communicatetoexpress #effectivecommunication #speakup #expressyourself
Happy Friday, folks! Weekend Challenge: Watch for instances of relational aggression to show up. Take a look at this week’s earlier posts if you don’t know what that is. Notice how you respond. Does your response likely encourage the status quo? If you aren’t feeling valued, with compassion, ask yourself in what ways are you valuing you. Your relationship with yourself needs tending to first. Don’t use the behaviors of others as a measure of your worth. If you have been, offer yourself an apology, and make a commitment grab a new measuring stick. You can train people how to treat you only after you’ve trained yourself on how to treat you ❤️
Are you longing to strike a balance between being too accommodating and aggressive? Do you want to learn the art of assertive communication i.e a midway tone nor too hard to digest, neither to soft to let people walk over you? “Art of Assertive Communication” by Women Retreat is one stop solution for you to learn rules of communication. This 2-hours interactive workshop will provide you with the techniques for speaking with authority while remaining calm, collected and professional. *Course Objectives:* At the end of program participants will be able to: 1. Differentiate between assertive and aggressive behavior through self evaluation and reflection of communication patterns. 2. Turn negative patterns into positive one and make an impactful first impression. 3. Incorporating positive and assertive vocabulary, tone and body language. 4. Being comfortable in saying ‘No’ without feeling guilty. 5. Put a plan to change habits and develop assertivene behaviours. 6. Learn to effectively communicate what you truly think and feel while establishing boundaries. 7. Emerge as a strong and confident individual who knows how to get heard in chaotic group situations. 8. Better manage conflict and difficult conversation and be confident in decision making process. Sign up to learn the value of learning to communicate anything assertively. Workshop Duration: 2 hours Training module: Online through Zoom Date: 31st October, 2020 Time: 3:00 - 5:00 Pm Charges: 1250 Rs Last date to apply: 29th October Payment Mode: Jazz Cash Account Account Title: Women Retreat Account Number: 03008334777 Email: womenretreatpk @gmail .com #WomenRetreatCircle #WomenRetreat #Assertiveness #assertive #assertivecommunication #assertivenesscoach #assertivenesstraining
Mindfulness, along with a little rehearsal, can assist you in staying calm and responding with purpose rather than being emotionally reactive.⠀ ⠀ Bonus tip: Take up a class or sport with a self-defense component, such as #MMA (Mixed Martial Arts ). Team sports are also great for building confidence and relationship skills. However, “solo” sports are particularly good for teaching self-reliance and how to remain calm in stressful situations...two extremely important skills for responding to relational aggression.⠀ ⠀ I’ve shared a few pictures of my 6 year old daughter learning these very skills (she’s in the pink shorts ). After trying a variety of things (dance, ballet, gymnastics, soccer, etc ), it appears she’s found her jam and I couldn’t be prouder ☺️ #trainlikeagirl #proudmomma
Now I know it’s not as easy as this but hear me out! At CFIH, we often meet individuals whom have struggled with concerns about eating and their weight/shape for their entire lives. They come to therapy seeking to make peace with their bodies and with food. However, they are often reluctant to give up the dream of attaining (or maintaining ) a smaller body. When unpacking this reluctance with people, I’ve often learned that my suggestion to “abandon dieting” or “give up on this harmful pursuit of weight loss” is often interpreted as “abandon your dream of feeling good about yourself” and “give up on the hope of being treated by others the way you wish to be treated”. When we understand that dieting and weight loss has been a means of attaining a sense of self esteem and confidence, of having satisfactory relationships, and feeling happy & content, it makes perfect sense that someone would resist such changes. Many of us can probably relate to becoming fixated on some external change to solve an internal problem at some stage or another. However, the message that “if you just lost weight...” is a particularly pervasive one that starts early - especially for young girls whom are experiencing weight-base bullying by their peers. In their efforts to protect their daughters from the anguish of being bullied and ostracised by their peers, many well-meaning parents suggest, encourage, and support young girls to diet and lose weight. The implicit message behind such responses being, “If you change yourself, people will like you and not cause harm to you”. Or, in other words “They are mistreating you because there is something wrong with you”. The role of such messages in a society that continues to experience alarming rates of domestic violence, sexual abuse, and victim- blaming, is a topic for another conversation. Continued in comments..
A huge part of Wellness is having healthy boundaries. Boundaries are like fences that we use to protect ourselves. . Have you ever found yourself saying yes to something when you really wanted to say no? In these situations, frustration and resentment are the usual result. Remember, no is a complete sentence. No is a boundary. . Need help getting to the root of why you may be having difficulty setting healthy boundaries? The services at Living Well can help you gain the tools and confidence you need. Give us a call. #healthyboundaries #assertivenesstraining #mentalhealthmatters #atlantatherapist #wellnessjourney
The 48-hour rule is something used by a lot of people to help them with communicating more efficiently and respectfully. It can sometimes become difficult to sit back and evaluate your emotions when you're in the heat of a conversation or argument. You may end up saying something you regret or something that you didn't mean. Next time, try the 48 hour rule! . . . . . Article reference: Following The 48-Hour Rule, The Key To Communication Emily Ann Gigliotti #assertive #assertivecommunication #communication #assertiveness #confidence #communicationskills #selflove #psychology #mentalhealthawareness #assertivewoman #assertivenessskills #assertiveliving #assertivenotbossy #healthyrelationships #assertivewomen #mentalhealth #love #assertivenesscoach #istatements #boundaries #assertivenesstraining #traumarecovery #recovery #confidenceiskey #confidence #couplescounseling #selfcare #couplestherapy #inspiration #leadership
We love this lunchbox "memo" that a member of the Full Bloom community received from her kiddo. Food preferences are real and we want to make space to hear from our kids about them. When we honor their feedback we send the message that we hear them, that their voice matters, and that no one knows what feels good (or yucky! ) to them (aka their taste-buds ) better than they do. So does that mean we want to honor all grievances our kids bring to us when it comes to the food we serve them? Not exactly. While it's perfectly fine for kids to tell us at the dinner table how much they hate what we've served them, that would not be a moment to respond by preparing or even offering another selection. Rather, it might be a moment to say something like "thanks for telling me how you feel. You never have to eat anything that you don't want on the table." Letting your kids be pissed off for as long as they need to be in these moments is more the goal than catering to their on-demand preferences. This parent/child lunchbox "memo" interaction is so fantastic because it demonstrates a young child feeling comfortable asserting themself to their parent, which means that parent has created space for her child to know that it is safe to do so. It also creates an opportunity for the parent to learn something about their child and honor the preference moving forward, without stepping out of their feeding role And remember, patterns of picky, avoidant, or restrictive eating are still something to be on the look-out for because yes, they can be serious issue that require professional evaluation. If you have any doubts or questions about this TALK TO A MENTAL HEALTH PROFESSIONAL or REGISTERED DIETITIAN (we are always happy to connect you with a trusted professional in your area ). But sometimes kids just don't like raisins. And if you're creating space for them to come to you with their thoughts and feelings... they may just send you a lunchbox "memo" too!
A big part of trauma recovery and post-traumatic growth is re-establishing one’s boundaries. You have to be able to tell others what you need and where your limits are. This is hard if you lack assertive communication skills. Here’s a formula I teach my clients for assertive communication: FIRR. F: “For me...” Use this phrase to start your sentence. It tells your listener that you are only speaking from your perspective rather than trying to establish any sort of absolute truth. Example, “For me, shouting at each other is not a productive way to problem-solve.” I: Impact... Let this person know the impact of their behavior. “When you yell, I feel nervous and my brain sort of shuts down.” R: Reciprocate... Acknowledge where the other person may be coming from. Remember, their needs matter too. “I get that this is a really hard subject to talk about and that we are both feeling really passionate about this.” R: Request... This is the meat of assertive communication - make a specific request of your listener. If you’re feeling bold, feel free to add a contingency for what happens if they don’t agree to your request. “Can you please lower your voice? If not, I’ll have to leave the conversation.” Using this formula makes it easier to start practicing assertive communication. When you start using these skills, it’s important to remember that the heart of assertiveness is: “My needs matter, and so do yours.” You have a right to your boundaries. And so does everyone else. Assertiveness will get us there. #boundaries #assertiveness #assertivenesstraining #assertivecommunication #communication #communicationskills #therapy #therapistsofinstagram #mentalhealth #mentalhealthmatters #mentalhealthawareness #trauma #traumatherapy #traumarecovery #posttraumaticgrowth #ptsd #anxiety #depression #codependency #recovery #relationshipgoals #relationships #selfcare #selfacceptance #selfcompassionquotes #selfcompassion #healthyrelationship
Bullying, whether physical or non-physical forms, results from childhood conditioning OR develops gradually later on to serve a specific purpose. It varies among aggressors, but is often about the sense of power over others that feels addictive. A person who “hoards” this type of power is many times motivated to do so not only because of the reinforcing aspects (power ), but because it reduces a sense of vulnerability. It’s kind of like building an imaginary fortress that can’t be breached. Everyone involved suffers, especially those on the receiving end.
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Is it really presentation skills you need to work on? Feel free to get in touch if you also have that problem.❤️ #presentationskills #moderationskills #softskillsinenglish #softskillstraining #negotiation #negotiationskills #businessenglishvocab #businessenglishskills #advancedcommunication #meetingsinenglish #succesfulmeetings #confidencetraining #assertivenesstraining
'Shy bairns get nowt' ~ If you're too shy, or don't ask, you will not get what you want. This proverb is used widely in the North East of England to encourage children to speak up & not to be too shy. However, it may also be used to imply that an adult is too shy or unassertive (Wiktionary ) ..i spied this on a wall today. As one of my most beloved Northern phrases, and one of the lessons in life I quote most, I wanted to get down to the nitty gritty on this one. You see, I suffered in a plethora of scenarios by being a 'shy bairn'. And I'm not even 'shy'. So it makes me curious. Why do we find it hard to ask for what we want/ need? In my case there were various reasons I've grown aware of over the years...&, hoping it might help any of you recognise or avoid the pitfalls, I wanted to share: ♡ I didnt know what I wanted ♡ I didnt feel worthy of what I wanted ♡ I was scared of looking pushy ♡ I thought what others wanted/ 'needed' was more important ♡ I was scared of being rejected for asking Each of these has been at play at one time or another, and even this list isn't exhaustive. It actually feels crazy now reflecting on this. It isn't like I was incapable of asking for what I wanted, but when I did I tended to be a bull in a china shop. In reality I found being assertive tricky. I would either exert more (verbal ) force than I needed in seeking to get my needs heard, to compensate for the feelings of doubt, or I would bite my lip. The big shame is it holds us back from feeling fulfilled in life & love. It puts the onus on others to read our mind. And it's taken a looooong time to overcome my own inner 'shy bairn'. Delving into my inner experience using breathwork & embodiment is amazingly healing. (There's a free online conference that began today @theembodimentconference with some amazing global speakers. A chance to learn techniques to connect with yourself, your desires, and find your voice FOR FREE! ) Maybe when you look in the mirror tomorrow try saying it to yourself ....."shy bairns get nowt".... and notice how and where you feel that 🧡 (Wall art from Lime Street, #ouseburn , Newcastle Upon Tyne ) #shybairns #consciouschoice #connection
Grandma would say, “I can show you better than I can tell you.” • There is absolutely nothing wrong with telling a person how you would like to be treated. Showing them however carries more weight. Showing a person how you would like to be treated is more significant because it changes the other person’s thought process. They SEE it. They FEEL it emotionally. They no longer have to question what they have been HEARING from you but now know and believe that what you are DOING is 💯 percent pure truth and 💯 percent you. • #assertive #assertiveness #wbw #relationships #assertivenesscoach #assertivenesstraining #words #paralanguage #howyoucome #conflictresolution #grandma #wisewords #stoptalking #shhh #positivity #positivebehavior #actionspeakslouderthanwords #mentalhealth #bipoc #stopthestigma #chemicaldependency #codependency #feelme #mentalhealthrecovery #traumarecovery #healthycopingskills #healthandwellness #mentalhealthandwellness
Looking forward to the day I’m bringing you home, little one 🖤 #futureworkingdog #psychiatricservicedog #rottiepuppy #deeppressuretherapy #protectiondogs #stopgenderbasedviolence #empoweringwomen #traumahealing #assertivenesstraining #gotyourback #socialworkerslife #animaltherapy #pawsyourstress
How often do we make excuses for someone’s behaviour just because we can understand the circumstances? We might excuse an abusive partner because we know that they are stressed at work. We may justify someone’s drinking problem because we know that their parent also had a drinking problem. We may excuse someone’s insults because we knew that they were angry at the time. Just because you can understand someone’s disrespectful behavior, does not mean that it’s okay. Regardless of our circumstances, we are all responsible for our actions. If we feel that we cannot control our actions, then it’s a sign that we may need to seek help. Never justify hurtful behavior. Accountability is a sign of maturity. All feelings are acceptable; but not all behavior is. . . . . . . . . . . #rakhibeekrum #psychologist ______________________________________________________ #durban #durbannorth #southafrica #umhlanga #relationshiptips #relationshiprules #conflictresolution #relationshipadvice #boundaries #healthyboundaries #assertivenesstraining #selfrespectfirst #unhealthyrelationships #toxicrelationships #abusiverelationships #genderbasedviolence #toxicmasculinity #stopmakingexcuses #choosepeoplewhochooseyou
Last time I asked if we say the same hurtful comments to our friends, as we say to ourself. This time I’m wondering if our friends are the ones saying hurtful things to us. Sometimes we don’t notice how we might be being put down, our ideas might be dismissed, or we might not be included. This is really going to affect our mood. Take a moment to reflect on your friendships. I wrote about assertiveness last week and would recommend this approach if you’re wanting to deal with these issues face on. Are there also people you can turn to who lift you up rather than put you down? . . . . #assertivenesstraining #selfcarefirst #boundaries #friendshipsthatlast #validation #happiness #health #cbt #cbttherapy #therapy #psychology #mentalhealth #stress #anxiety #depression #rdg #rdguk #caversham #maidenhead #henley #sonning #wokingham #woodley #berkshire
You set the tone for how people treat you. People will either stay or leave either way...you’re free! #married2therapy #licensedprofessionalcounselor #blacktherapists #boundariesareessential # #breakinggenerationalcurses #dallaslpc #texaslpcs #relationshiptips #healthyrelationshipsmatter #fortheculture #blackfamilies #boundariesisselfcare #boundariesisselflove #momandwifelife #boundarieswithfamily #itsokaytosayno #assertivenesstraining #nomeansno
What do boundaries sound like? It is not my job to fix others. It is okay if others get angry. It is okay to say no. It is not my job to take responsibility for others. I do not have to anticipate the needs of others. It is my job to make me happy. I have a right to my own feelings. I am enough. • • • • • • • • #boundaries #healthyboundaries #assertivenesstraining #selflove #holistichealing #teletherapy #counsellingservices #mentalhealthmatters
Check in bags can be very dangerous to carry. In today's times sometimes a favor can turn into a lifetime mistake. It has happened to some. Seafarers signing on and off ships may carry stuff for others on human grounds or under duress of authority. #duress #carryingbags #airlinerworld #counselorsofinstagram #lifecoaching #hypnotherapy #assertivenesstraining #howtosayno #signon
Assertiveness is a social skill that relies on effective communication, in which you have healthy confidence to stand up for yourself while maintaining respect for others. . . . . #assertiveness #assertive #assertivecommunication #assertivenesstraining #confident #selfconfident #becalm #speakup #highvibration #highvibes #psychologists #psychologytips #psychologistsofinstagram #therapist #psychotherapist #therapistsofinstagram #therapists #thoughtcraft #communication #development #skills #communicationskills #speakout #speaknow #mentalhealthclinician #mentalhealthawareness #healthyboundaries #socialskills #understanding #boundaries
• Repeat this • “I am not responsible for how people respond to my boundaries. I am responsible for setting and honouring my boundaries. If my relationships end because I set boundaries, it’s a sign that the foundation was cracked. In healthy relationships, I can set boundaries without fear of retaliation, cut-offs, or manipulation”. What stops you from setting boundaries? • • • • • • • #boundaries #assertivenesstraining #setboundaries #mentalhealthmonth #selflove #selfawareness #holistichealing #teletherapy
• Ten signs you lack personal boundaries • 1. You fail to speak up when mistreated. 2. You give away too much of your time. 3. You agree when you actually feel like disagreeing. 4. You feel guilty for dedicating time to yourself. 5. You feel taken for granted by others. 6. You have toxic relationships. 7. You have chronic fear about what others think of you. 8. You over-share details about your life with others. 9. You constantly feel like the victim. 10. You attract people who try to control or dominate you. Can you relate to any of these things? Remember that you’re not a failure for having poor boundaries! It’s something that we all struggle with. Learning boundaries is learning to love yourself and respect the energy you put into other things. How will you challenge yourself today? • • • • • • • #healthyboundaries #settingboundaries #assertivenesstraining #selflove #selfreflection #holistichealing #teletherapy
Learning assertiveness skills is meant to help you better communicate your wants, needs, and boundaries with others. It’s not an affront on others. You aren’t suddenly being difficult. Assertiveness is not aggressive. It’s open, honest and direct communication of your thoughts and needs. Here’s the thing though... . Going along with the flow and being agreeable might be easier for others. You are maintaining the status quo. No one needs to change or adapt to change. But this doesn’t help you get your needs met. . Sure, others will need to adjust to your new style of communicating. It’s new and that’s ok. But that doesn’t mean they wouldn’t want you to try out a new skill that could help you. . If they do have a problem with your new assertive communication, then take a minute to evaluate 1 ) whether you are overshooting assertiveness and it is coming across as aggressive - or stepping over other’s rights and boundaries, and 2 ) what the other person gains from you being passive. . We live in a world where other’s demands on us are great- whether those others are our family, our bosses, coworkers, friends, or even our kids. Assertiveness is crucial to helping you be you and your happiness. . To your health and happiness - S #assertivenesstraining #selflove #assertiveness #anxiety #depression #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #selfcare #therapyiscool #assertive #communication #communicationiskey
• Benefits of setting boundaries • 1. Boundaries show maturity. 2. They protect your energy. 3. They reduce resentment. 4. They create time to show up for the people you love. 5. They lengthen relationships. 6. They weed out bad relationships. 7. They attract abundance. 8. They set a precedence. 9. They’re good for your career. • • • • • • • #boundaries #assertivenesstraining #setboundaries #mentalhealthmonth #selflove #holistichealing #teletherapy
I stumbled on this guide to emails and had to share... I caught myself saying sorry in emails and conversations so often that I now consciously check myself, you know, before I literally “wreck my professional self”, so to say...There’s a fine line between wanting to be genuinely nice and humble, and appearing incompetent... As #workingwomen , we can be so socialized to constantly apologize for taking space that it can be challenging to acknowledge normal mistakes and not give the impression that we’re not on top of things, when we actually are more than competent and qualified... So here’s to less apologizing and more assertively acknowledging 😉 📷: @danidonovan
✨ ASSERTIVENESS✨ Assertiveness gets a bad reputation for being aggressive. There’s a false impression that in being assertive, we are being demanding, rigid, or bossy. Rather, assertiveness has been a skill that I teach my clients about due to the value it brings to attending to your personal needs and values. When I assert myself, I am letting the other person know my personal boundaries, while still being respectful and understanding of theirs. It’s a way of providing mutual respect to a situation, while also not sacrificing yourself, your needs, and what you value along the way. 🗣 How do you practice assertiveness? #assertiveness #assertivecommunication #assertivenesstraining #communication #healthycommunication #anxietyawareness #anxietysupport #needsandvalues #respectingmyself #respectyourself #mentalhealth #mentalhealthcommunity #mentalhealthadvocate #supportmentalhealth #counselling #counseling #counsellingservices #counsellingpsychology #psychotherapy #communicationskills #therapyiscool #therapyworks #therapyskills #privatepracticetherapist #therapistsofinstagram #reachoutformentalhealth #reachoutforhelp #mindfulness #mindful #mindset
I know how hard this can be! “They should know...” right? Maybe, and is this helpful to assume? Almost everyone with food/body image issues can benefit from assertiveness training. •When you (state the facts )... •I feel (don’t say make or made me feel )... •Because (it seems to me, I get the idea, it gives me the impression )... Dieting and eating disorders are one of the best distractions from inner chaos. They can also serve as a way to inefficiently communicate our feelings. It’s vulnerable to speak up... and no one can read our minds. We deserve to stand up and have our own backs. Practice makes progress.
Communication, or lack thereof, is a common issue for people with food/body image challenges. The anger and resentment that comes from unmet expectations can fuel disordered eating. Other ways expectations relate to food/body: We may expect to live in a smaller body because: -We weighed x in high school -Our family or friends have smaller bodies -We eat nutritious foods -We’ve been exercising, counting our macros/points, doing what we’re told. We expected one thing and got another, where does the resentment go? Often towards ourselves, it’s ‘my fault’. Or maybe we get the f*ck it mindset, leading to bingeing, purging, a shame shitstorm and punishing ourselves more. It’s a crappy cycle. Loosen your grip of expectations, numbers, diets, and pounds and practice gratitude, speaking up for yourself, and nourishing your mind/body/spirit. You deserve the bigger life.
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Low on bandwidth (I get it! ) and struggle with saying no, try this one on. We’re going through so much right now, we are overwhelmed, and there are a ton of reasons why it’s hard for us to speak up or say no. Sometimes it’s difficult to just come up with the words, it’s easier to say yes, or we don’t want to disappoint people. Be kind to yourself, this isn’t always easy, and see if saying no to others can help you say yes to yourself.